Relationship Secret Sauce
Did you know there actually IS a relationship secret sauce?! If you're in a fun, healthy relationship, I bet you'd agree. And, if you've ever broken up from a not-so-great situation you can probably identify which part(s) were missing.
If you're dating, keep these 4 factors in mind.
Already married? Take an honest assessment of how you are doing in each area.
So, what four things that can help you enjoy a great relationship? Here they are:
Compatibility. If you're looking for more than a "hook up" then you want to pay attention. This makes everything easier. Couples who enjoy the same interests, share common values and life goals, have similar perspectives on what makes a relationship "good" and whose temperaments complement each other, tend to have better odds at making it work in the long run. Curious about your compatibility? Take this short quiz Compatibility Quiz by Kari
Communication. Everyone tends to have their own idea about what this means. When it comes to communication, I believe quality is key. What does this mean? It means you can be open and vulnerable with each other--sharing what's on your heart and mind without fear of rejection or judgment. It means you don't shy away from hard conversations. It means you listen to each other. It means you talk about sh*t when there's miscommunication and conflict. Speaking of conflict, are you able to resolve it without name-calling or holding grudges? Couples who communicate well can say yes to all of these.
Chemistry. If you've got it, there is an undeniable "pull" that you both feel. It's both sexual and emotional. This is incredibly important because it helps keep couples connected. This is more to it than sex, a strong desire to simply be in one another's presence is often a good indicator that you and your other half have got it going on. However, chemistry alone isn't enough to keep your relationship intact in the long run.
Commitment. For most people, this seems like a no-brainer, duh, don't cheat. But I believe commitment is more than just not "stepping out" on your partner. Commitment includes things like having your partner's back (especially in front of other people), and putting in effort to keep yourself physically and emotionally healthy. It means not shying away from sensitive topics. It’s also not threatening to leave as a way to make the person stay. Picking up "the slack" for each other--putting in 80% when your partner only has the bandwidth for 20% due to challenging circumstances (and vice-versa) is another, often overlooked way, couples show their dedication.
Relationships that have these characteristics share a special kind of interconnectedness. Some of it simply comes natural, but some of it also takes intention and effort.
If you feel like you could use help in any of these areas I invite you to book a free consultation today Book My Consult or give me a shout! (530) 709-2745.