I Need A Minute

Next time you’re in an emotionally charged or heated discussion, try saying "I need a minute.” This simple, yet powerful sentence can change the trajectory of the discussion and have a positive effect on your relationship. How?

This one sentence literally gives you a minute to collect your thoughts. When you're in a verbal exchange with emotions running high, you're likely to say things out of anger or frustration that you don't actually mean. "I need a minute" is a great way to give yourself the space to think about what's really bothering you. It also allows you time to figure out how to express yourself so they can better understand where you're coming from.

These four little words are also an expression of your vulnerability. It demonstrates to the other person that whatever is being said is having a serious impact on you. Vulnerability is a huge part of building trust in a relationship, and this is a good way to start becoming more vulnerable.

Last, "I need a minute" gives the other person a minute too. A little break in the conversation can go a long way in collecting one's thoughts and emotions.

 Next time you find yourself engaged in an argument, try "I need a minute" and see what happens.